80/20 Rule - Lesson of Love

This is food for thought for many of us... enjoy!! A very valuable lesson to learn …
Interesting quote from the movie 'Why did I get married?'

In most cases, especially in relationships, you will only get 80% of what you NEED and you will hardly get the other 20% that you WANT in your relationship. There is always another person (man or woman) that you will meet and that will offer you the other 20% which is lacking in your relationship that you WANT. And believe me, 20% looks really good when you are not getting it at all in your current relationship.

But the problem is that you will always be tempted to leave that good 80% that you know you have, thinking that you will get something better with the other 20% that you WANT.

But as reality has proven, in most cases, you will always end up with having the 20% that you WANT and loosing the 80% that you really NEED and that you already had. Be careful in deciding between what you WANT and NEED in your life.

Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have. 'Wow, this girl in my office is a real looker. But it's not her Wynona Rider features that got me. I'm crazy about her because she's also understanding, intelligent, tender - so many things that my spouse is not.'

Somewhere along the way, you'll find a woman or a man who will be more charming or sensitive. More alluring. More thoughtful. Richer. Have greater sex appeal. And you will find a woman or man who will need you and pursue you and go loco over you more than your spouse ever did.

Because no wife or husband is perfect. Because a spouse will only have 80% of what you're looking for. So adultery takes place when a husband or wife looks for the missing 20%. Let's say your wife is melancholic by nature.

You may find yourself drawn to the pretty clerk who has a cherry laugh no matter what she says: 'I broke my arm yesterday, hahahaha ...'

Or because your wife is a homebody in slippers and pajamas, smelling of garlic and fish oil, you may fall for a fresh-smelling young sales representative that visits your office in a sharp black blazer, high heels, and a red pencil-cut skirt. Or because your husband is the quiet type, your heart may skip a beat when you meet an old college flame who has the makings of a talk show host.

But wait! That's only 20% of what you don't have.

Don't throw away the 80% that you already have!

That's not all. Add to your spouse's 80% the 100% that represents all the years that you have been with each other. The storms you have weathered together. The unforgettable moments of sadness and joy as a couple. The many adjustments you have made to love the other. The wealth of memories that you've accumulated as lovers.

Adultery happens when you start looking for what you don't have.
But faithfulness happens when you start thanking God for what you already have.

But I'm not just talking about marriage. I'm talking about life!
About your jobs.
About your friends.
About your children.
About your lifestyles.

Are you like the economy airline passenger that perennially peeks through the door of the first class cabin, obsessed with what he's missing? 'They have got more leg room! Oh my, their food is served in porcelain! Wow, their seats recline at an 80% angle and they've got personal videos!'

I guarantee you'll be miserable for the entire trip! Don't live your life like that. Forget about what the world says is first class. Do you know that there are many first class passengers who are miserable in first class -- because they are not riding in a private Lear Jet?

The main message???

If you start appreciating what you have right now, wherever you are, you are first class!

Husband and Wife 1

Dear Wife:


I'm writing you this letter to tell you that I'm leaving you for good. I've been a good man to you for seven years and I have nothing to show for it. These last two weeks have been hell. Your boss called to tell me that you had quit your job today and that was the last straw. Last week, you came home and didn't even notice that I had gotten a new hair cut, cooked your favorite meal and even wore a brand new pair of silk boxers. You came home and ate in two minutes, and went straight to sleep after watching all of your soaps. You don't tell me you love me anymore, you don't want sex anymore or anything. Either you’re cheating on me or you don't love me anymore, whatever the case is, I’m gone.


Your EX-Husband

P.S. Don't try to find me. Your SISTER and I are moving away to West Virginia together! Have a great life!



Dear Ex-Husband -

Nothing has made my day more than receiving your letter. It's true that you and I have been married for seven years, although a good man is a far cry from what you've been. I watch my soaps so much because they drown out your constant whining and griping. Too bad that doesn't work. I did notice when you got a hair cut last week, the first thing that came to mind was "You look just like a girl!" but my mother raised me not to say anything if you can't say anything nice. And when you cooked my favorite meal, you must have gotten me confused with MY SISTER, because I stopped eating pork seven years ago. I turned away from you when you had those new silk boxers on because the price tag was still on them. I prayed that it was a coincidence that my sister had just borrowed fifty dollars from me that morning ... and your silk boxers were $49.99. After all of this, I still loved you and felt that we could work it out.

So when I discovered that I had hit the lotto for ten million dollars, I quit my job and bought us two tickets to Jamaica. But when I got home you were gone. Everything happens for a reason I guess.

I hope you have the fulfilling life you always wanted. My lawyer said that with your letter that you wrote, you won't get a dime from me. So take care.



Signed

Rich As Hell and Free!

P.S. I don't know if I ever told you this but Carla, my sister, was born Carl. I hope that's not a problem.

Today: November 14, 2008

Today is my second Friday in BDO. I have decided to update a clearer version photo of the view from my cubical. In the picture below, you can see a cup with many teddy bear. It is a cup from Kah Seong. Well it is not a direct present but it is a Christmas exchange gift back then in Accenovate. Now, I use it daily to practice drinking my 2 liters of water.

Today: November 10, 2008

Today November 10, 2008 is the second Monday of working in BDO. Today I brought McD “Hello Kitty -work hard” doll to work. This is a doll given by my dear friend Lewis from Hong Kong back then when I was working in Accenovate. I brought it to work today. I believe it is to encourage me to continuously work hard while working lol…



In this picture is the Hello Kitty doll in orange dress. From here you can see it is sitting on my cubical table on the phone. Behind is “the office”. Somewhere on the left near the brown cupboard is the exit. Well, behind me? Is where all the Director’s are.

My 6th Uncle

Above is my 6th uncle (The 6th brother of my mom). Saw him on the third day on the trip in Johor with mom. Me and my siblings call him “Aku” in mandarin. He works in Johor Baru if I am not mistaken… Well couldn’t remember much of him though besides going back to visit him every new year. He’s a grandpa now and age about 70++. Lastly, he looks tan and smiley!

As you know, vegetable generally known as the edible parts of plants can basically be planted at home. His past time includes managing his garden of vegetables. Some of the vegetables, such as carrots, bell peppers and celery, are eaten either raw or cooked; while others are eaten only when cooked.

This is how his mini garden looks like:-




Please see below the snapshots on some of many kind of vegetables planted. Some I don’t even know what it is called maybe you can help by providing me the names ;) TQ. :-



1) Lady fingers also known as the Okra.



2) Aloe vera



3) Ground nuts (To see this, you will need to pull this plant out! Haha)



4) Small chili



5) Ribena Flower (According to my uncle, he say it is used to make Ribena juice)



6) Don’t know what you call this, the Malays eat it raw whilst the Chinese eat is simple cook. I think its call the "serai" is it?

** Thanks Billy, yes I've forgotten it. Its name is Season bean!



7) This is a fruit. Don’t know what it is called as well. But it’s a fruit that can be eaten and the inside looks like a soursop!.

** Billy I also know this is "how mow lao lin" hahaha Just don't know what it is called in English ;p

Sincerely, I do encourage planting as a hobby. If it is vegetables, BETTER! You can eat home planted vegetables whereby not only it is healthier, you also don’t have to waste time purchasing all from the market. I encourage mom to do the planting too ;) I think I should spend some time to get my hands dirty!

November 8, 2008

I opened my computer cupboard upstairs in sister’s room today. In it were huge findings. Among the things I found in the cupboard includes:-

• Bracelets, necklaces and jade given by my late grandmother… It reminds me of how much love she has for me “although” the most loved in the family is still the younger one with “one eye snake”.
• In there I found a musical box in yellow. I tried my best to recall who was it from? I think it is from Patricia Yap. Someone I thought fondly of. Drifted and lost contact after high schools and got contacted again while studying in KTAR after that, gone again… Jesus Christ! I’m so bad in keeping contacts! But from facebook, I see you are doing great and I’m glad to know you are!
• Parker pen with the box and casing nicely intact. I know this is definitely from mommy! She gave it to me when I was having my UPSR. I can’t believe the pen is still nicely kept in the box and I totally forgotten about it…
• A pair of Kenji earrings. It is from one of my ex. Liked it very much and didn’t want to wear it… I wonder how is he now. We separated not on good terms.
• A bracelet again from another ex. As my wrist was too small I could not wear it… It is still nicely kept in its original box along with grandmothers jade bracelets and necklace.
• A letter knife that I use to liked a lot. It is still nice and shining. The knife’s design is plain and simple. I think the number of letters open by it should be less than 20 after so many years of keeping. “lol”
• A mini bus from my younger brother… Must have been because you were often very naughty sometimes the good deeds done by you were neglected. Looking at the bus reminds me the human side of you. I’m very sorry my dear brother. I still love you as much but I think I’ve started to neglect you too. From the difficult time you gave us, it’s hard to think of you but yet not feeling frustrated. In the end, we couldn’t even bother much anymore… We’ve been thinking so much for you I think its time for you to be independent.
• Gifts from sister’s younger days. Such as bricks from visits, key chains, shells and etc.
• A doll from Kim Fatt. He bought it when he was eating beef noodles. It’s been a long time since I heard from you too. After you married you couldn’t even keep contact with us because she’s a quick to jealous person…
• A sandalwood ladies fan from daddy ;)
• Memories of Nomis, nicely documented. Good god… I’ve missed you so much…
• A photo frame from sister during the younger days. To my surprise the picture wasn’t me with my sister it was me with Joyce Chan. My secondary school mate. How are you girl? Still in Australia? I think you should have start working by now aye?

In it were my many memories. You couldn’t believe how many years ago were those things. If I did not keep any of it, I could have lost all the fond memories I have with every one of you… Boy how I treasure those times.

PedEgg Professional - Foot File

Last Sunday on the way back from Johor, a group of 8 came up to KL. My aunt, uncle, 1 little girl, mom and I were the 8. We stop for breakfast in Batu Pahat market and saw the foot file below. We bought a total of 4 files. My comment on the product is as below.

The name of the product is PedEgg Professional. PedEgg is a precision foot file, specially designed to help eliminate calluses and dry skin on the feet. Frequent usage of PedEgg helps in removing crack heels and rough hands too. It’s like having a professional spa treatment right in your own home. It also so cheap that beauty can be purchase at a cost of RM 10 only!



Ps: Personally I did not do the filings. My mom did and it really worked on her crack heels…