Family (mom): Mom's Love & The watch (August 23, 2008)

My mom, she's a very simple woman. Last Saturday she bought me a watch. This is how the watch looks like.

Thanks mom, I like it very much. I really do! The reason why she bought me a watch is because I simple have none. This is due to my numerous histories of sudden disappearing watches.

About the disappearing of watches, I can explain. This, we will have to start talking about my habit of wearing watches. Many, who know me, knew I always have a watch on my wrist. I never seem to take them off even when I go to bath or sleep or swim, in short, it is 24 to 7 on my wrist. Them (the watch) disappearing from my sight seems tough. Unfortunately so, "Yes it does", cuz several mornings I woke up and one watch gone. There goes another and so does another and another.... The number of watch I have lost? Erm... numerous ;) Till today, I don’t know where they ended up.

Again back to my mom, she's a very simple and humble woman. Just like my grandmother did. Why I would label her a simple woman is because of her live, full time housewife and the only thing she's worried about is how to be a good mother. She thinks she isn’t a good mother when she's no longer washing my clothes. Ain’t she lovable?

Anyway it was not all about her simplicity or all the missing watches. I was suppose to highlight how touch I am she bought me a watch... Along with the watch she said to me "I'm sorry I cannot afford something fancy or branded. I hope you'd like it despite it being very cheap."

Oh my god, mom! You almost put me in tears. It’s not the brand or the cost; I'd love anything from you, anything! & like I say above, I like it very much. In fact, it is very thoughtful of you.

The 7th Ray of Memoirs – My treasure!

The day was hot. We cannot wait to get it over and done with…

I walked in, greeted the madam seated at the counter and started strolling shelves after shelves looking at every single stones available even in the deepest corner. I was busy looking at the variety of crystals displayed at the shop with all my other friends. It was thought to be like any other day. It was the last stay of my trip there.

They gathered round the counter talking to the friendly lady serving. Me, I am still looking for the right stones. Choosing which one to pick out of the thousands is often a very difficult decision to make. After pointing out a few, I return to the counter to get a sit before I finalized which one to purchase.

Sitting at the counter and looking at the variety of stones introduced. The man of the house was busy introducing, show and also pointed at the stones one over another. He was busy with his introduction and me with my bargaining for a better price.

I STILL DID NOT NOTICE!

Mrs. Tan at the counter started to divert her conversation to me. “So it’s been a long time since I saw you, how are you doing?”, “I’m fine thank you. Yes, it’s been a long time, haha I’ve been busy.” She handed over a name card to everyone then me and she said “Let me introduce, this is my son! And that is his name card.” She pointed at the guy in red in between one of the shelves.
NOW THAT is when I notice the stranger my friends were talking to! He was the guy Looi was chatting to happily. Okay so she wasn’t on a call! He blushed and laughed then he said “Hi, I’m Ray!”. I stretched my hands out and shake his. “Well, nice to meet you. I’m Ching.” Everyone started introducing themselves to him and then my attention was drawn back to his mom.

Looking at me she said to everyone “My son is still single, are you single? It would be great if you can introduce anyone nice to him…” Are you kidding me? Your contacts and his is broader then mine. You don’t need me to introduce any! I saw him shy off saying that it’s embarrassing and suggested us to divert to another topic.

That was when his dad looked over and says “Ah, Yes, that’s my son!” so proud of him that he was, he then continued with his introduction on the collections…

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That day, after I left the shop, I actually issued a SMS out to him and I wrote “AH, So I do know you, they told me you were the guy who frequents Nesturn, the guy who owns the shop! No wonder why you seem rather familiar.”

On our first conversation he said “I was very surprised how smart my mom was to hand over my name card. She understands me very well and knows what I’d like. She gave me a shock with what she did and my dad too! He’s never like this before. Can you remember how he look over half way and introduced me to you and you only?” To tell you the truth I did not noticed that. Knowing the nature of mine, it’s hard for me not to be careless and notice details.

Most of your words are still freshly carved in my memory. He talked a lot that night. One that meant a lot that night was you saying “Remember that SMS? I was hoping so hard. Hoping it was you on the other line. My mom asked me to call and ask if it was you. Indeed it was you! I need to thank my mom. If not, I would not have found you.” From his voice, one can tell he was with joy so happy that he carried a smile all the way while talking.

Here I know, he has set his eyes on me when I walked into the shop. His eyes followed me throughout the entire transaction. He has set strong determination to make me his and I am the lucky girl picked. It wasn’t any ordinary day after all, because I’ve found you too!


** Nesturn is a café I visited frequently. They have singers who perform on stage. Well, it’s a lonely night nothing much you can do if not to catch up with friends. I saw him there frequently but was not properly introduced.

Happened a few years back adapted from my blog in friendster

Book - The Present

Three Ways To Use Your Present Moments

Be In The Present
When You Want To Be Happy And Successful
Focus On What Is Right Now.
Use Your Purpose To Respond
To What Is Important Now.

Learn From The Past
When You Want To Make The Present Better Than The Past
Look At What Happened In The Past.
Learn Something Valuable From It.
Do Things Differently In The Present.

Plan For The Future
When You Want To Make The Future Better Than The Present
See What A Wonderful Future Would Look Like.
Make Plans To Help It Happen.
Put Your Plan Into Action In The Present.

Post Traumatic Dating Disorder (PTDD)

Dubbed by American relationship expert Lucia Demasi. It is said that Women with Post Traumatic Dating Disorder(PTDD) respond irrationally to small provocations in relationships. They assume the worst for no logical reason, based on what’s happened to them in the past. Post Traumatic Dating Disorder (PTDD) comes solely from dating experiences different from having "baggage" as it comes from any part of our life.


Five telltale signs you have Post Traumatic Dating Disorder (PTDD)

•Every time he’s 10 minutes late you think it’s over
•You’re always looking for signs of rejection
•You have flashbacks to prior similar situations
•You constantly jump to negative conclusions
•You’ve given up on dating – it will only end in tears

Taylor Swift - Teardrops On My Guitar

Drew looks at me, I fake a smile so he won't see
That I want and I need everything that we should be
I'll bet she's beautiful, that girl he talks about
And she's got everything that I have to live without

Drew talks to me, I laugh cause it's just so funny
That I can't even see anyone when he's with me
He says he's so in love, he's finally got it right,
I wonder if he knows he's all I think about at night

Chorus: **

He's the reason for the teardrops on my guitar
The only thing that keeps me wishing on a wishing star
He's the song in the car I keep singing, don't know why I do

Drew walks by me, can he tell that I can't breathe?
And there he goes, so perfectly,
The kind of flawless I wish I could be
She'd better hold him tight, give him all her love
Look in those beautiful eyes and know she's lucky cause

Repeat Chorus **

So I drive home alone, as I turn out the light
I'll put his picture down and maybe
Get some sleep tonight

He's the reason for the teardrops on my guitar
The only one who's got enough of me to break my heart
He's the song in the car I keep singing, don't know why I do
He's the time taken up, but there's never enough
And he's all that I need to fall into..

Drew looks at me, I fake a smile so he won't see.

Texas - Say What You Want

Twenty seconds on the back time
I feel you're on the run
Never lived too long to make right
I see you're doing fine

And when I get that feeling
I can no longer slide
I can no longer run
Ah no no
And when I get that feeling
I can no longer hide
For it's no longer fun
Ah no no

Chorus:**
** Well, you can say what you want
** But it won't change my mind
** I'll feel the same
** About you
** And you can tell me your reasons
** But it won't change my feelings
** I'll feel the same
** About you

What I am is what you want of me
Yeh, now that I'm not there
I took the tables away from you
It's turned that I don't care

And when I get that feeling
I can no longer slide
I can no longer run
Ah no no
And when I get that feeling
I can no longer hide
For it's no longer fun
Ah no no

Repeat chorus ** [x2]

I've said goodnight
Try to sleep tight
Ah just dream of me
Go close your eyes
Cause I've closed mine
The sun will shine from time to time
Oh, when you dream of me, yeh

Repeat Chorus **

Mariah Carey - Bye Bye

This is for my peoples
Who just lost somebody
Your best friend, your baby
Your man or your lady
Put your hand way up high
We will never say bye
No, no, no

Mamas, daddies, sisters, brothers
Friends and cousins
This is for my peoples
Who lost their grandmothers
Lift your head to the sky
Cause we will never say bye

As a child there were them times
I didn’t get it
But you kept me in line
I didn’t know why
You didn’t show up sometimes
On Sunday mornings and I missed you
But I’m glad we talked through

All them grown folk things
Separation brings
You never let me know it
You never let it show
Because you loved me and obviously
There’s so much more left to say
If you were with me today
Face to face

Chorus:**
** I never knew I could hurt like this
** And everyday life goes on I wish
** I could talk to you for a while
** Miss you but I try not to cry
** As time goes by

** And it’s true that you’ve
** Reached a better place
** Still I’d give the world to see your face
** And be right here next to you
** But it’s like you’re gone too soon
** Now the hardest thing to do is say

** Bye bye
** Bye bye, bye bye, bye bye
** Bye bye, bye bye, bye bye
** Bye bye, bye bye, bye bye
** Bye bye

You never got a chance to see
How good I’ve done
And you never got to
See me back at number one
I wish that you were here
To celebrate together
I wish that we could
Spend the holidays together

I remember when you used to
Tuck me in at night
With the teddy bear you gave me
That I held so tight
I thought you were so strong
You’d make it through whatever
It’s so hard to accept the fact
You’re gone forever

Repeat Chorus **

This is for my peoples
Who just lost somebody
Your best friend, your baby
Your man or your lady
Put your hand way up high
We will never say bye

Mamas, daddies, sisters, brothers
Friends and cousins
This is for my peoples
Who lost their grandmothers
Lift your head to the sky
Cause we will never say bye, bye.

Repeat Chorus **